I was able to add the android market to my tablet but when i went in to download apps it would say downloading but never would download and now when i go to the market, it has my tablet listed but has it not compatible did i miss a step somewhere
I'm guessing you were trying to download using the Google app. If that's the case it is possible that the app you were trying to download, (install), is in fact NOT compatible with your tablet or with tablets in general. Lots of apps are still only for phones and developers of other apps have not OKd the app for certain tablets.
I might be able to tell you something more with even more information, like what app.
Log into the Play Store using a browser and look for the app in question to see if it says it's compatible with your device.